How Common Is Infidelity? Exploring the Prevalence and Impact in Modern Relationships

Most people recognize cheating in relationships as a negative thing, but that doesn’t necessarily stop them from doing it. In fact, recent studies have shown that infidelity in modern relationships is fairly common.

About 20% of men and 13% of women have reported cheating on a partner. While there are countless factors that can play into infidelity, those statistics might be a bit shocking to some.

So, why do people cheat? Why is infidelity so common, and what impact is it having on today’s relationships?

The Monogamy Argument

Some people argue that monogamy is natural for humans, but that might not necessarily be true. Most species in the animal kingdom do not mate for life, with a few exceptions — including, supposedly, humans.

People argue the validity of monogamy using many different factors to back them up. Often, Biblical arguments are used, but so many major figures of the Bible had multiple wives and tended to practice more polygamous lifestyles.

There is not some kind of test that can be performed to determine if humans are naturally monogamous or not, but one might argue that if we are, why is infidelity such a major issue? Why is it the subject of so many movies, television shows, and songs? Why do we spend so much time talking about it, thinking about it, and dissecting it? It is something on our minds and something we want to learn more about, so the idea of staying with one person for life might not be as “natural” as some people think.

Why Do People Cheat?

Again, there are countless reasons why people decide to commit adultery in a relationship. Some of the most common causes include unmet needs (physical or emotional), poor communication, self-esteem issues, attachment issues, or the desire for something new.

Infidelity is a different experience for everyone. Some people specifically seek out new relationships as something different and exciting. Others find opportunity in the least-expected places and take advantage of it.

A Slippery Slope

Some people today do not believe that humans are naturally monogamous, so they are completely okay with the idea of an open relationship. They might have a committed partner, but both people are free to date others, and even be intimate with others.

While both partners are not necessarily cheating, by their own definitions, these actions can still take a toll on the relationship.

The Impact of Infidelity

No matter the reason, there is no denying that infidelity can take a toll on a relationship. First, it impacts trust. If you are in a committed relationship and you cheat on your partner, it will be extremely difficult for them to trust you again. If someone cheats on you, that lack of trust might carry over into future relationships.

Cheating can also lead to mental health issues like depression or anxiety. You might start to feel insecure and carry those worries with you into other areas of life.

Even in an open relationship, your partner being with someone else can wreak havoc on your mental well-being. You might start to wonder why they prefer that person over you. It can impact your self-esteem and the way you carry yourself. Whether you stay in that relationship or not, viewing yourself in a negative light can create attachment or dependency issues and foster unhealthy relationship habits.

No matter how you feel about infidelity or how common it is, there’s no denying the negative impact it can have on relationships and individuals. If you are struggling with the aftermath of infidelity, being able to talk to someone is key. Do not hesitate to reach out for help and schedule a consultation for couples therapy soon.